A New York Time article called More Men Marrying Wealthier Women has attracted some fascinating comments on the paper’s web site. First, from the article:
An analysis of census data to be released Tuesday by the Pew Research Center found that she and countless women like her are victims of a role reversal that is profoundly affecting the pool of potential marriage partners.
“Men now are increasingly likely to marry wives with more education and income than they have, and the reverse is true for women,” said Paul Fucito, spokesman for the Pew Center. “In recent decades, with the rise of well-paid working wives, the economic gains of marriage have been a greater benefit for men.”
The analysis examines Americans 30 to 44 years old, the first generation in which more women than men have college degrees. Women’s earnings have been increasing faster than men’s since the 1970s.
“We’ve known for some time that men need marriage more than women from the standpoint of physical and mental well-being,” said Stephanie Coontz, a professor at Evergreen State College in Olympia, Wash., and research director for the Council on Contemporary Families, a research and advocacy group. “Now it is becoming increasingly important to their economic well-being as well.”
The education and income gap has grown even more in the latest recession, when men held about three in four of the jobs that were lost. The Census Bureau said Friday that among married couples with children, only the wife worked in 7 percent of the households last year, compared with 5 percent in 2007. The percentage rose to 12 percent from 9 percent for blacks, among whom the education and income gap by gender has typically been even greater.
Comments:
Florida male:
I blame our educational institutions for failing our boys and young men, but mostly I blame American parents for failing to impress upon boys the importance of education and for failing to assist in the educative process by helping with homework and keeping open lines of communication with their children’s teachers. What sort of scenario did we expect when we allowed college attendance and graduation rates by young men to fall below 40% of the total. When young women come to make up two-thirds of the educated work force, of course they will come to dominate entire professions and income strata.
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Seattle female
I thank my husband’s single mother for raising a son who thinks a strong and capable woman is the norm. We’ve been together for 15 years. I earn more, but that has not defined our relationship. We have one budget, so how much is coming from whom has not been an issue. We love talking to each other, so it is our intellectual compatibility that has been very important to both of us.
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D.C. female
Count me among the women whose husbands make less. I put my husband through grad school recently, and the result has been that he’s had trouble finding full employment post-financial crisis. I still have the much better paying job, which has led to us delaying plans for children. I love my husband tremendously, and I can tell it’s a strain on his confidence to make less than me. Interestingly, this puts more stress on us, since I’m so busy and stressed but paradoxically have to spend more time focusing on his emotional needs.
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